Girlfriends/Wives? How do they put up with the AM lifestyle?
I’ve always been curious to see how other affiliates wives/girlfriends put up with the crazy hours, the frustrated out bursts and odd lingo.
My girlfriend was with me before I started AM. Early on we had tough spells because I would be hacking away at all hours, we have sorted that out now.
She has noticed that I can’t concentrate anymore on one thing for a long period.
But she puts up with and is good to bounce ideas off of. Finally coming around haha.
How does yours cope?
My girlfriend generally complains all the time that I’m always on the computer. I tell her that it’s not like I’m reading the celebrity gossip like she does; I’m trying to earn my living. So deal with it! That goes over well
Every time I look at my cellphone she says "How’s them stats?" Because she would get annoyed that I checked my stats all the time when out. But now she has a smartphone and checks her email more than I ever checked my stats. So I ask her "How’s them stats?!" Lol..
Single here, can’t complain at all 😛
My girlfriend is the same. She thinks Im just browsing and having fun on the computer all the time.
Whats worse is when she sees me losing money… I try tell her I’m trying to test and collect data, and she’s like she doesn’t care, all she sees is money loss haha
I’m still living by this words.
I am getting married in 2 months and my work has been one of the bigger issues we have had.
In the end I have worked hard to do most of my work during 9-6 (while she works) and she has to live with the occasional late night and a few hours of work on the weekend.
Despite this she still complains that I always am on the computer
Though this might decrease my earnings slightly I think it is better for both of us in the longterm.
We go by two guidelines that work well for us:
1) We have a large block of time in the evening that is always reserved for us to spend time.
2) Everything else needs advanced planning (e.g., if I need to take the kids to swimming lessons during the day, I need to know the day before)
My girlfriend doesn’t work, she is ALWAYS out shopping….. So basically she encourages me to work more hours
p.s. I think I need a new girlfriend
My fiance is pretty good and deals with my manic ups and downs from going from +1,000/day to -$1,000 almost every other month. She also can’t complain because our lifestyle has been pretty good, and if I was working full time there would be 0 chance we would enjoy this lifestyle.
She’s not into getting hair done or too much shopping, but we have enjoyed other things:
Lived in San Francisco and Australia
Traveled to Italy, Germany, Russia, Thailand, Malaysia, Bahams, Dominicin Republic, Vegas
Paid off her CC debt in cash
Go out to eat quite a bit
She knows that the lifestyle can only come with sacrafice.
But it goes both ways shes the reason I’m able to get back up after getting knocked about in this game.
I’m lucky. My gf doesn’t complain about the hours I spend on the computer, and she actually helps me on occasion by proofreading landers and what have you. When we first met a few years back it was right before I lost damn near every penny I had (see my post in the affiliate confessions thread) and she stuck with me through that. So I think I’m pretty lucky.
Also, my ex was a joke. She was happy when I was buying her Louis Vuitton bags and other retarded shit, and taking her to Atlantic City on the weekends, etc etc but the minute I said "this is costing me way too much, we need to scale it back" she stopped taking my calls and started sleeping with her ex. Joke’s on her, last I heard she was dating a guy who was in his late 30s and lives with his parents. So yeah, fuck that bitch.
EXACTLY! my mind is always only 20% in our conversations while the other 80 is floating around in affiliate land somewhere.
Althought I haven’t made it big yet I just tell her to be patient and I will buy her tons of stuff when I’m rich. That usually shuts her up for a bit
same for me and mine. we have been together for coming onto 2 decades.
she was also been with me when I did other entrepreneur AND corporate work (both large and small companies)
unlike many women she is not delusional about what it takes to make it. (the hours, the risk, the stress)
does she like the long hours. financial roller coaster. nope. and who in their right mind would?!
does she love that we can sleep in (At times), vacation, get some sun when most have to work, eat the best foods, and only have to worry about one commute schedule. OH YEAH!
oh and the… ya thats even better then when I worked corp… so there is that.
I do not think most women are cut out to be in a relation with an entrepreneur just as many men are not cut out to succeed at it.
in the end a good "I dont go to your work and f*ck with you, dont you come to my work and f*ck with me" sometimes lovingly needs to be repeated 😛
I guess my wife just puts up with it because she knows I am so passionate about being my own boss.
I still work a day job so it gets tough at time between her and the kids(Me working the dayjob 8-5 then getting on the computer from usually 8:30 PM on) so the only real "Family" time I have is between 6-8:30 everyday which sucks but we both know it will payoff in the end.
She doesn’t necessarily like that I work so many hours but she knows when I get to the point I need to I will be able to scale that back a good bit and enjoy my family a lot more. One thing I have learned from only being able to work on my business for a few hours a day is I am able to do lots of things in a short period of time
My wife didn’t believe AM was a reality at first (due to many early failures), but now I’m training her to run my successful campaigns so I can concentrate on new ones. She is an underwriter for ***** and can’t wait for us to make enough so she do this fulltime.
I’ve sold her on the idea of living the life of Angry Russian! We work most evenings and all weekends on this. Working this close can be tough sometimes, as she cant stand me being the boss!! , but the excitement of financial freedom overcomes all obstacles.
My gf broke up with me when I started in AM, because according to her I "wasn’t into the relationship anymore". And to be honest she was correct, ahahahaha!
Yeah I kind of spoil my girlfriend big time too.
But I know she ain’t gold digger at all cause she was with me when I was broke, haha sometimes I had to borrow like $20 from her.
For the past 4 years I have paid for all rent, food and travel (16 countries). Definitely my biggest expense, but it’s worth it she keeps me sane in times of frustration and pushes me to get off the computer sometimes. I know I would turn into some creepy cave troll if I didn’t have a girl.
My girl is cool with me doing affiliate marketing. She’s pretty independent plus she likes the fact that whenever she wants to take a trip my schedule can always be adjusted so we can enjoy some leisure time.
Lol I totally understand you because this is what happening on me! She even asks me to stick with SEO for free traffic instead of using $$ to buy traffic. How adorable she is. =)
My girlfriend is really cool with what I do, we’ve been together for more then 3 years, I was broke and sometimes she gave me money . Now its better and she always encourage me to work when I slack and sometimes I gave her some work to do for me . Its all good for me.
Awww so many of these posts are so cute you guys. I’m a chick. My boyfriend is in the industry too (advertiser) so we are both workaholics so we understand when the other can’t get away from work. We also share business ideas and talk about affiliate stuff all day long so that’s nice too.
It’s not cute! It’s tough and manly and stuff…
My girlfriend is a affiliates too.
Y’all lucky. Mine hates AM and wants me to work for the gov or corporate. I ain’t giving up on PPV. It’s going to work for me real soon.
Danny – wait until she gets a wiff of that smell of money coming your way soon She will want you to work all hours.
My wife is very supportive and happy with this. Before I cut the day job I was away 3 to 4 nights a week for work. I was rairly able to make my sons rugby matches or maybe took them to school 10 times over a period of 6 months.
Now I try and stick to 6 hours during the day work max, with a couple of hours in the evening.
I now can do all those thing. Family is delighted and dont want me to ever go back to what I used to do.
I do do the odd all nighter if im on a roll but limit those as its not healthy.
My girlfriend used to be my AM, so she’s just fine with it.
My girlfriend simply does not get it, and prefers not to ask. She just thinks its weird when I’m sifting through advertisements of dudes with their shirts off. She really has nothing to say about it more than she probably thinks its some sort of online scam because I have yet to show anything for it. At least all my other friends think internet marketing is a pyramid scheme… hmmm.
its tough until the money starts rolling….once that happens……the mood changes quick
ya, what polar said
… so get one that loves you NOW for the poverty and stress, because in life… SHIT HAPPENS!!!
Best advice I ever got from a mentor, "Personality is what you get when times are good…Character is what you see when times are not. In life you will have both good and bad times. So be with people of Strong Character and Good Personalities"
The ones with you and love you on the climb are much better than the ones waiting for you & your pockets to empty once you get up to ‘their level’
The Article Published IN 06-22-2011 10:36 AM